I just changed hair stylists again since my hair has a lot of breakage.?

The new stylist says relaxing hair and coloring is very damaging to African American hair, Is this true? She says she wants to stop using relaxers on my hair and only shampoo and blow dry and color when needed. Am I being set up for some more breakage and damage? And yes she is giving me bi-weekly conditioners and reconstructive treatments. I was also surprised when she said my hair type was mixed and only the "back of the nape" of my hair really needed a relaxer the rest was ok to shampoo and blow dry. Have I been taken all these years? Relaxing hair that didn't need it because of one area ? Anyone else have this same enlightenment? Any hair stylist out there with feedback?